Ms. Sassy,
I am losing friends left and right due to my inability to keep my foot out of my mouth. Lately, I have been getting into fights with my friends because I just don't know when to stop talking. What do I do?
-Tasty Toes
Tasty Toes,
Just because you have a feeling or emotion does not mean you need to subject every person you come into contact with to it. It sounds like we're probably a lot alike, and what I learned is that I'm the type of person that needs to take a minute or two to calm myself down when I'm upset, otherwise I begin to spew verbal diarrhea all over the person who upset me. Next time someone makes you start seeing red, step away from the conversation. Take as much time as you need to sort through your feelings. Then, revisit the issue when you can have a calm and rational discussion about what was said, without making the person hate you.
However, also keep in mind that not every person you meet is worthy of the title of "Friend." It could be that you need to be more discriminatory in who you let into your inner sanctum. Take stock of the people in your life and if they are ready to throw in the towel every time you all hit a snag in your friendship, then they don't deserve to be in your life. Cut them lose and move on. Stop mourning the lose of these people you're tying yourself to and go get yourself some friends worth having.
I am losing friends left and right due to my inability to keep my foot out of my mouth. Lately, I have been getting into fights with my friends because I just don't know when to stop talking. What do I do?
-Tasty Toes
Tasty Toes,
Just because you have a feeling or emotion does not mean you need to subject every person you come into contact with to it. It sounds like we're probably a lot alike, and what I learned is that I'm the type of person that needs to take a minute or two to calm myself down when I'm upset, otherwise I begin to spew verbal diarrhea all over the person who upset me. Next time someone makes you start seeing red, step away from the conversation. Take as much time as you need to sort through your feelings. Then, revisit the issue when you can have a calm and rational discussion about what was said, without making the person hate you.
However, also keep in mind that not every person you meet is worthy of the title of "Friend." It could be that you need to be more discriminatory in who you let into your inner sanctum. Take stock of the people in your life and if they are ready to throw in the towel every time you all hit a snag in your friendship, then they don't deserve to be in your life. Cut them lose and move on. Stop mourning the lose of these people you're tying yourself to and go get yourself some friends worth having.
