Ms. Sassy,
I just started dating my boyfriend a several months ago. We really like each other but the relationship is still fairly new. Well, I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant. I haven't told anyone yet and I don't have my doctors appointment until next week to confirm what the 2 home tests have already told me. Don't worry, I'm not some stupid kid. I'm 30 and have a great very secure job with great benefits, etc. My boyfriend is the same. I'm just not sure how I should handle telling him and the rest of my bible beating family that I'm pregnant with my new boyfriend's bastard. -Mommy to Be
Mommy to Be,
Let me start by saying congratulations. It sounds like you definitely plan on having the baby, which is fine. Just don't let your bun in the oven rush the relationship between you and your guy. Of course, break the news to him and let him know that he can be as involved as he wants to be and that you do not expect a ring just because you're having his baby. Pressuring him to marry you just because you're preggers is the worst thing you can do. Keep dating, if it's working and if it's not then start seeing other people. But DO NOT let yourselves turn into those parents who use their children as pawns to stick it to the other parent.
As for your family, well you're a grown woman. It's not like you need them to help you take care of the baby. So, tell them the news and voice that you're very excited so if they have any negative things to say then they can keep those thoughts to themselves. And go on about your business.
I just started dating my boyfriend a several months ago. We really like each other but the relationship is still fairly new. Well, I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant. I haven't told anyone yet and I don't have my doctors appointment until next week to confirm what the 2 home tests have already told me. Don't worry, I'm not some stupid kid. I'm 30 and have a great very secure job with great benefits, etc. My boyfriend is the same. I'm just not sure how I should handle telling him and the rest of my bible beating family that I'm pregnant with my new boyfriend's bastard. -Mommy to Be
Mommy to Be,
Let me start by saying congratulations. It sounds like you definitely plan on having the baby, which is fine. Just don't let your bun in the oven rush the relationship between you and your guy. Of course, break the news to him and let him know that he can be as involved as he wants to be and that you do not expect a ring just because you're having his baby. Pressuring him to marry you just because you're preggers is the worst thing you can do. Keep dating, if it's working and if it's not then start seeing other people. But DO NOT let yourselves turn into those parents who use their children as pawns to stick it to the other parent.
As for your family, well you're a grown woman. It's not like you need them to help you take care of the baby. So, tell them the news and voice that you're very excited so if they have any negative things to say then they can keep those thoughts to themselves. And go on about your business.