Ms. Sassy,
My boyfriend is a filthy pig. OK maybe I'm being a little over dramatic. He's not so much a filthy pig as he is slovenly. Every time he sets foot in my apartment he leaves a path of destruction behind him. I don't understand what he has against putting things back where he got them from. He finishes eating his food and just leaves his plate sitting on the counter. He's the last one out of the bed and he doesn't bother to make it up. And it's not just him, my dad and my brother are the same way. I don't understand why he can't clean up after himself. I don't go to his house and make a mess! WTH? How do I let him know that he's driving me crazy without sounding like a total beeyotch? -Housekeeper
Housekeeper,
OMG, I know exactly what you mean! My boyfriend is the exact same way. I'm with you I just don't get it. Why do guys want to be in a relationship that closely mirrors that of a mother and son rather than as two adults as equals? I can't stand cleaning up after my guy. I start yelling and slamming things, it's a mess. I get to the point where I feel like my head is going to explode.
That being said, guys are sensitive, no matter how much they try to deny it. So I like to go with the passive aggressive approach. When he leaves something in disarray, I look him straight in the eye and ask, "Are you done with this," while standing next to the mess. He then realizes what he did says, "Yes," and jumps up to clean it. It works like a charm. And while I'm not a fan of being passive aggressive, well sometimes you just have to be.
My boyfriend is a filthy pig. OK maybe I'm being a little over dramatic. He's not so much a filthy pig as he is slovenly. Every time he sets foot in my apartment he leaves a path of destruction behind him. I don't understand what he has against putting things back where he got them from. He finishes eating his food and just leaves his plate sitting on the counter. He's the last one out of the bed and he doesn't bother to make it up. And it's not just him, my dad and my brother are the same way. I don't understand why he can't clean up after himself. I don't go to his house and make a mess! WTH? How do I let him know that he's driving me crazy without sounding like a total beeyotch? -Housekeeper
Housekeeper,
OMG, I know exactly what you mean! My boyfriend is the exact same way. I'm with you I just don't get it. Why do guys want to be in a relationship that closely mirrors that of a mother and son rather than as two adults as equals? I can't stand cleaning up after my guy. I start yelling and slamming things, it's a mess. I get to the point where I feel like my head is going to explode.
That being said, guys are sensitive, no matter how much they try to deny it. So I like to go with the passive aggressive approach. When he leaves something in disarray, I look him straight in the eye and ask, "Are you done with this," while standing next to the mess. He then realizes what he did says, "Yes," and jumps up to clean it. It works like a charm. And while I'm not a fan of being passive aggressive, well sometimes you just have to be.