Ms. Sassy,
I've been married to my husband for more years than you've probably been alive. We always fight over money. He thinks thinks that because he makes all the money, he should be the only one to say how it's spent. But I used to work, too. And I raised our three kids while doing so. Now, he totally controls all the money. If I need or want money for anything I have to go to him to get it. I don't even have an ATM card to access the money. I think it is a total insult. How do I get him to treat me like his equal? -No Money
No Money,
WTH?! You need to tell your husband that carrying his three children to term, bearing them, and raising them is worth money then he'll ever be able to make! I don't have any kids, and I'm not in any hurry, for the very fact that it's a hard job with no time off or holidays and it's for the rest of your life. If you want to continue to put up with this bs then that's your decision. But I would never in a billion years let some guy keep me away from the money he's able to make because I'm at home cooking cleaning child-rearing and essentially keeping his family life happy so his professional life can stay in order.
Tell that jack ass to kiss it and leave. And make sure you take your half with you when you go. Or you know, you could be more practical and just start charging him for all the stuff you do. I bet he'll value you then. Next time you make him dinner, charge $7-$12, depending on what you made. Charge him for sex, charge him for cleaning, for doing his laundry, raising the kids, taking care of the dog, anything you do that benefits him.
I've been married to my husband for more years than you've probably been alive. We always fight over money. He thinks thinks that because he makes all the money, he should be the only one to say how it's spent. But I used to work, too. And I raised our three kids while doing so. Now, he totally controls all the money. If I need or want money for anything I have to go to him to get it. I don't even have an ATM card to access the money. I think it is a total insult. How do I get him to treat me like his equal? -No Money
No Money,
WTH?! You need to tell your husband that carrying his three children to term, bearing them, and raising them is worth money then he'll ever be able to make! I don't have any kids, and I'm not in any hurry, for the very fact that it's a hard job with no time off or holidays and it's for the rest of your life. If you want to continue to put up with this bs then that's your decision. But I would never in a billion years let some guy keep me away from the money he's able to make because I'm at home cooking cleaning child-rearing and essentially keeping his family life happy so his professional life can stay in order.
Tell that jack ass to kiss it and leave. And make sure you take your half with you when you go. Or you know, you could be more practical and just start charging him for all the stuff you do. I bet he'll value you then. Next time you make him dinner, charge $7-$12, depending on what you made. Charge him for sex, charge him for cleaning, for doing his laundry, raising the kids, taking care of the dog, anything you do that benefits him.