Ms. Sassy,
I've been married to my husband for more years than you've probably been alive. We always fight over money. He thinks thinks that because he makes all the money, he should be the only one to say how it's spent. But I used to work, too. And I raised our three kids while doing so. Now, he totally controls all the money. If I need or want money for anything I have to go to him to get it. I don't even have an ATM card to access the money. I think it is a total insult. How do I get him to treat me like his equal? -No Money

No Money,
WTH?! You need to tell your husband that carrying his three children to term, bearing them, and raising them is worth money then he'll ever be able to make! I don't have any kids, and I'm not in any hurry, for the very fact that it's a hard job with no time off or holidays and it's for the rest of your life. If you want to continue to put up with this bs then that's your decision. But I would never in a billion years let some guy keep me away from the money he's able to make because I'm at home cooking cleaning child-rearing and essentially keeping his family life happy so his professional life can stay in order.
Tell that jack ass to kiss it and leave. And make sure you take your half with you when you go. Or you know, you could be more practical and just start charging him for all the stuff you do. I bet he'll value you then. Next time you make him dinner, charge $7-$12, depending on what you made. Charge him for sex, charge him for cleaning, for doing his laundry, raising the kids, taking care of the dog, anything you do that benefits him.

Ms. Sassy,
I just started dating my boyfriend a several months ago. We really like each other but the relationship is still fairly new. Well, I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant. I haven't told anyone yet and I don't have my doctors appointment until next week to confirm what the 2 home tests have already told me. Don't worry, I'm not some stupid kid. I'm 30 and have a great very secure job with great benefits, etc. My boyfriend is the same. I'm just not sure how I should handle telling him and the rest of my bible beating family that I'm pregnant with my new boyfriend's bastard. -Mommy to Be

Mommy to Be,
Let me start by saying congratulations. It sounds like you definitely plan on having the baby, which is fine. Just don't let your bun in the oven rush the relationship between you and your guy. Of course, break the news to him and let him know that he can be as involved as he wants to be and that you do not expect a ring just because you're having his baby. Pressuring him to marry you just because you're preggers is the worst thing you can do. Keep dating, if it's working and if it's not then start seeing other people. But DO NOT let yourselves turn into those parents who use their children as pawns to stick it to the other parent.
As for your family, well you're a grown woman. It's not like you need them to help you take care of the baby. So, tell them the news and voice that you're very excited so if they have any negative things to say then they can keep those thoughts to themselves. And go on about your business.

Ms. Sassy,
Why do men disappear? How can you go from being head over heels in love with someone to just waking up one day and being over them? What kind of cowards are some men anyway?
-Sick of Men

Dear Sick of Men,
Wow. Hate men much? It sounds like you have loved lost and had your heart drop kicked. I totally understand why you're bitter. And trust me, you are bitter. But women disappear too. I don't think you can call some men cowards without calling some women cowards too.
However, to answer your question, people don't go to bed in love one day and wake up out of love the next. It just isn't possible. People grow. Sometimes they grow together but most times they grow apart, look at divorce statistics. Now, how long your SO takes to voice his/her change in affection towards you is another story altogether. THAT is the real problem. Maybe they keep quite out of concern for your feelings, maybe it's out of cowardice. Either way, that is why you are convinced that people's emotions change out of nowhere.

Ms. Sassy,
I have a roommate now and he literally is from the jungle. He's Filipino, and I'm discovering that there are TONS of things I have to make rules about that I never imagined I would have to do. He throws his toilet paper in the TRASH, he doesn't lock the door all the time when he comes home, he leaves faucets dripping, he doesn't turn off the lights when he's done with them, and he leaves clean dishes in the sink. I'm scared he might forget to turn off the stove since he's showing major signs of being a forgetful person.
I don't want to come off as a nagging roommate, but COME ON! I haven't even touched on the little things like the toilet seat being left up or MY Britta water filter not getting refilled NOR refrigerated. How can I tell if my concerns are legit or if I'm just being a nag? How should I approach him about all of my concerns cause I've addressed each one individually, but it seems like he needs reminders. He's a good person and we vibe very well, so I feel conflicted. I wanna keep him but I feel like he's a liability. Should I keep him or just kick his ass out? HELP.
-Conflicted Roomie

Conflicted Roomie,
First off, what's with the jungle reference? You're insinuating that your Filipino roommate is some sort of savage because he's from the jungle. A different culture doesn't mean worse or better it just means different. But your bigoted viewpoint is a whole other issue.
The issue at hand is your living situation. I've traveled all over Asia and I can tell you that your roommates little "habits" are nothing more than cultural differences. Most Asian countries don't have the best plumbing, so you don't flush toilet paper, unless you want to run the risk of clogging up the toilet. Hell, you're lucky if toilet paper is eve an option. In most instances you use a water hose to rinse, air dry, and then pull up your pants, so...This is the same with locking the door. I lived in a city in Korea and the crime rate was less than 3%. The big news of the day was someone stealing a bike. Do you see what I'm getting at?
It's not that you're roommate is forgetful, he just needs time to adjust to a different culture. If you two get along, then I would definitely keep him on as a roommate. I suggest making a list of house rules and then sitting down with him to review each rule. For every rule you have listed, take the time to explain why it's a rule and what could possibly happen if that particular rule isn't followed, i.e. "We both need to remember to always lock the door behind ourselves. You know, otherwise someone could just walk right into our apartment and take, or things or worse."
Once you've had that discussion, give it some time, about a month. If you're still having problems then let him know that his inability to adhere to the house rules is becoming a serious problem and that things need to change or else you're going to have to find a new roommate.

Ms. Sassy,
My exes and I are "friendly," and no that's not code for I still fool around with them. I mean that I've never had a messy break up so my exes and I are still in touch, we check up on each other, etc. I will admit that at some point any one of them wants to reconcile, but I usually resist the urge. Well, I'm currently in a relationship and one of my exes, who I stay in touch with via Myspace, sends me love letters. I haven't actually spoken to this guy in years and I'm not interested in him romantically at all. Should I tell my current boyfriend about my exes wooing, or keep it to myself? I just feel like I'm hiding something from him by keeping my mouth shut.
-Spilling The Beans

Spilling The Beans,
It must be awesome to be you, every man who's ever come into contact with you falls hopelessly in love and can't forget about you? Wow, must be nice.
Concerning your problem? Girl, keep your mouth shut! Telling your current boyfriend that your old ex-boyfriend is "whispering sweet nothing in your Myspace ear" isn't going to do anything other than rock the boat. You're just bragging to him that your ex still loves you and he better watch out or your ex-boyfriend just might win you back. Tell your ex he needs to step off and respect your current relationship otherwise you two can no longer be Myspace friends.

Ms. Sassy,
So recently my friends and I made a hookup list. We basically stated all the guys we either made out with or had sex with. Me I wrote down all of the boyfriends I have had. I had 25. When I looked at that number I was shocked. I feel like I can't have a stable long lasting relationship. Like commitment scares me or something. Am I doomed to not have a normal relationship?

Most of this is me venting. But if you can answer this I would think you're awesome.
-Commitment Phobia

Commitment Phobia,
Uh, how do I say this delicately? A "hookup" list 25 guys long does not make you commitment phobic, it makes you a bit of a slut. I'm sorry but I don't know what the deal is with you kids today. You just give up the panties to every guy who looks at you and then wonder why you cant get/keep a boyfriend. Let me let you in on a little secret. No guy, regardless of his age, wants to take a dirty ho home to meet his mother. It's just not going to happen. If you are determined to get yourself a boyfriend then I suggest you keep your legs closed. I'm not saying you can't have sex, although under 18 is hella young to be having sex, but goodness have some standards! Only self respecting young ladies are worth having a relationships with, in the eyes of most guys and their mothers.

Saying "I love you" is always a scary thing. But what's even scarier is being the one who says it first. While I am not a fan of playing games, I am a fan of being smart, and it seems that the brains over at CNN agree with me. You may have found the perfect guy and have fallen madly in love with him, but before you go screaming it from the rooftops stop in your tracks, shut your mouth and sit down. Why? Because it is in your best interest to let him say it first.

I don't care how chauvinist it may sound, it's the truth. I can honestly say that I have never been the first one to say those three little words, mostly because I'm an extremely emotionally guarded person who hates to feel vulnerable, but we're not talking about my emotional short comings right now. Can you imagine the sheer agony of finally working up the courage to say something so life changing, only to be met with a blank stare?! In most cases, I know a guy loves me before he's even aware that he has feelings for me. After all, what's not to love?! But, as I've said many times before, guys are slow. In the case of my guy, it takes him forever to figure out something that I knew from day one. Sure he catches up eventually but I have to let him come to the realization of things on his own.

Whether you agree, or not, it's a valid point. Argue all you want, ladies, but jumping the gun with an "I love you" means an end to your relationship. Mostly because guys scare easily. Trust me, just stay quiet and keep being your fantabulously sassy self, and the light bulb is sure to come on. One day it will hit him like a ton of bricks, how much better his life has gotten since you came into it like a ray of sunshine and turned his gray hum-drum existence into a colorful multifaceted fun filled time. He'll be saying "I love you" in no time and THEN you can oh so coolly reciprocate.

To read more about this controversial topic, check out the CNN article here.

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